I want to share a tactic that has been very successful for me over the past year.
As I've looked back on 2016, one particualr mantra kept me going. It's amazing what can happen when you stick with one idea, one focus and see what you can achieve. It helps to reframe your brain when you start to fall down the all too familiar rabbit hole of negativity or unnecessary worry. I can be anxious like anyone else out there trying to get one million things done in a day because the list, it never ends and omg did I remember to post xyz to all of the things and I haven't been on Insta yet today I better do that and now it's dinner time (how did that happen?!) so let's eat and then lets go back to the phone and watch that video because we need to know the latest and greatest thing and make sure we share that article because its relevant and make sure you go on pinterest too and and and........... here's the secret, the list is as long as you make it in a day!
I've learned to make my expectations a little less daunting for myself! You'll feel so much more accomplished and satisfied if you don't expect a robotic output from yourself. Time blocking will be my friend one day, but that day may not quite be here yet. But you know what?
We have to pace ourselves, and keep the focus clear. Much like practicing an instrument, you have to go easy on yourself in the beginning. One of my favorite quotes from my art teacher was "If you can't make a bad drawing you'll never make a good drawing." without the bad days you'll miss out on that learning process.
This is the mantra that kept me sane and able to change from beating myself up to actually getting a little better every single day.
At the end of a year, a little better every day ads up to a whole lot better!
And think what happens when you can channel this focus into a dream or goal?
I've seen lots of mantras out there, and the one that works best is the one you remember and actually use. The one that feels good and comes naturally.
This one kept me from beating myself up too much (cough, cough, perfectionist!) because it let me be where I am, not where I felt I should be already. (There's the problem: should.) It's all a process is another good reminder I use often.
Just a little better meant I could find just one small thing - even if it was focusing for a little longer rather than being distracted, or even getting outside for a walk if it was all just too much in a day and I needed to breathe. Listening to your body and your emotional needs better is just that: it's a little better than not listening.
So, if you find a mantra that helps you reframe your thoughts (because that is all they really are-thoughts, not feelings that you have to engage. The thought comes before the feeling. We choose to make it a feeling when we believe the thought is the truth). If that mantra puts you in a better place, even just a little, every day, you're on the right track. Stick with it. It's all a process.
Also the song, Don't Let Me Down, when sung to yourself in a non-perfectionist way can work wonders (especially if you're dancing while singing along!) I didn't want to let myself down any more by beating myself up and asking too much of me. Afterall, I'm building something, not trying to just jump to the end point and say DONE! What would we do then? I want to enjoy the process! And just get a little better, every day.
Do you have a mantra? Let me know in the comments if you have one that you love!
Cheers to a radiant 2017!!!